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emsiecat
July 5th, 2008, 10:31 pm
Yeah like the title says, just a random rant.

Not trying to go all emo and self pitying on you all, but just something that's been niggling at me for the last three damn years or so now, and is finally starting to really effect how I act and think.

Have any of you at any time felt utterly useless and pathetic? Not in an emotional sense as such, but in a knowledge and ability sense?

For a long time now I've felt this way almost every freaking day and it's starting to piss me off and upset me. It seems that no matter what I do I always manage to screw things up somehow. Whether it's a task at work, spelling, knowledge, common sense, or heck even a conversation! Even if I try my hardest at something it's never quite good enough for my own standards or anyone elses.

For many years I've been trying to find my talent, something I'm good at, something that I shine and excel in... I'm STILL waiting to see what that is.

My art is mediocre at best compared to others, my writing skills are okay but nothing special, my grades are average I suppose (I hear about all these straight A people and turn green with envy), and my common sense is way way below par, go figure.

It seems no matter how hard I try I just never make it to the top. It's starting to make me paranoid. For example I'm continually nervous at work, so used to seeing all my colleagues do well that I'm terrified I'm going to mess up and lose my job, and thus such nervousness DOES make me screw up frequently, it's a vicious circle. Even my boss said the other day: Whenever you pick up the phone you sound positively terrified, what's wrong?

I'm scared stiff of making a mistake that's what's wrong!

I try and say something smart or intelligent and by sods law I either spell it wrong, someone already knew the fact, or completely disagrees with me and it knocks my confidence. People say I don't have enough life skills and it makes me feel like a fucking moron, which in turn leads me to being paranoid, making more mistakes and indeed looking like a retard in the knowledgable eyes of others.

I used to think I was quite smart at school, heck my friends and teachers said I was smart! But now I just feel like an idiot with a sieve for a brain!

I look around me and see confident successful people and just feel like: What the heck am I here for? Everyone else seems to be living their lives better than me and with less mess ups, so what am I supposed to do? What am I good at in life?

Anyway to cut a long story relatively short: I feel like I'm a bit of a moron and needed to rant and see if anyone else feels the same.

Thanks.

RehcaerpM22
July 6th, 2008, 10:38 am
95% of succesful people either got lucky, or got hooked up through family. Can't say I hate em for it though, it's one of the faults of the common system right now.

Aeris Avalon
July 6th, 2008, 10:48 am
I fought tooth and nail to avoid feelings like that. I'm sorry I can't relate this along quite the same lines you do, as my personal torments are of a completely different nature, but I do wish you well and completely understand the feeling of not being good enough...

RehcaerpM22
July 6th, 2008, 01:26 pm
Maybe this will help alittle.

emsiecat
July 6th, 2008, 01:47 pm
Aw thanks. Dunno what my willpower's like though, never really tested it. O-o

mew2cool
July 6th, 2008, 02:32 pm
what's wrong in being mediocre, i'm not the best in anything either but that never slowed me down. my grades were average at school and i don't even have a job. no reason to get depressed though.

emsiecat
July 6th, 2008, 02:41 pm
When others want more of you than what you can do it makes you feel that mediocre isn't good enough I guess. I'm a perfectionist at heart, like my mother. And when I make a mistake or someone points out my failings it effects me more than I let on. I think it over for ages and ages until I start feeling paranoid about it, even if it's only something small I'll dwell on it. I have done ever since I was a child so it's a very hard habit to break. I don't mean to sound whiny. It's just starting to really knock my confidence lower than ever whenever I realise I can't do something, or someone points out that I've done wrong or need to improve myself.

Aeris Jigglypuff!!
July 6th, 2008, 05:16 pm
Hey I feel like that sometimes, I really think you need to boast yourself up. If you really think that you are a screw up, then stop thinking that way, think postive in your self, sure things in life is hard, I srcrew up on my spelling and my words don't come out the way they sopposed to but I worked in a restrant for almost 6 years, when my boss hears me put myself down and he looks at me and said " stop saying that you are damn, you are a smart girl" And now I am saying it to you , you are a smart person, don't let yourself go down, you are a different kind of smart and you already got it!